Our Relationship Counseling are ready to help you find simple ways to connect with this special person in your life and make it last forever.
Learn to listen actively
Our relationship consultants at Relationship Counseling regularly discover that couples are not really listening to each other. This is because when a relationship starts to fall apart, we often rush to say what we mean to prove that the other person is wrong. We tend to jump to conclusions about what the other person means by saying or doing. We often personalize things and react negatively based on our interpretations or past experiences. We interrupt, we lack understanding, and we often judge and express our opinions instead of being impartial. A simple technique you can learn to help you change this is called active listening.
Therapists and relationship counselors use active listening. It’s about being aware of the person in front of you, listening to their every word, without interrupting or even allowing your mind to wander. It’s about being in the moment and focusing on what your partner is actually saying, not what you think you are hearing. This makes the other person feel that what you are saying is important. They will feel valued and respected, and in most cases they will offer this in return, creating a strong bond between you.
Allow yourself to be vulnerable
We underestimate the strength of vulnerability. People see this as “intimidating” or a weak point, so try to avoid it entirely in your relationship for fear of injury. In fact, it can be the cornerstone of a happy, healthy, and loving relationship with our partner.
Love and the possibility of pain go hand in hand. We don’t experience true intimacy unless we let our guard down and let someone in, and often people don’t realize that vulnerability is actually a sign of courage. It takes courage to step out of your comfort zone and put them all in a relationship, and it might be the best thing you’ve ever done.
Try couples therapy
You may have shied away from counselling services in the past, or you may have disliked admitting that you have relationship problems. However, in most cases, relationship counseling is the best way to resolve any relationship problems and will keep you moving forward in the long run.
Family counseling can help you overcome latent resentment about unresolved past problems and help you deal with conflict in a healthier and more productive way. Relationship counseling can help you understand each other better and improve the communication between the two of you. You will be provided with tools to take home to help you when family counseling is over.
If you would like to connect with your partner on a deeper level, contact a Relationship Counselor to make an appointment with us.